Children, Childhood, and Childrearing Dilemmas (article)
child abuse, childrearing, family dynamics, history of childhood, psychohistory, sexualization of children, substance abuse
In this article, the author sets out two opposed views of the condition of children in modern, largely middle-class suburban America, calling the discussion brief and impressionistic. The optimistic view, as the author presents it, rests on children’s material comfort, rights, legal protection from abuse, and educational opportunity, and on comparison with infanticide, wet-nursing, swaddling, child labor, and conditions at the court of Louis XIII and in the less developed world. The pessimistic view holds that children receive everything except a consistent, secure, loving environment and clear parental role models. It points to divorce, whose lasting effects the author notes researchers dispute, a media culture of fear, overscheduled families, television, early sexualization, drugs, school security, and adolescent suicidal thoughts. Drawing on recollections from child therapy practice, the author suggests that parent-child role reversals in fragmented families impede emotional growth. The author also discusses the strain on professional women combining careers and motherhood, citing anecdotes from acquaintances and the case of Massachusetts Acting Governor Jane Swift, and attributes to Title IX a transformation of women’s athletics and competitive preparation. The author says the two positions express contradictory feelings heard from others, some shared, while affirming the value of having children. The article concludes that children are both better and worse off depending on the group and aspects examined, and notes that immigrant, urban African-American, and other children fall outside its scope.




